Have you ever heard of the phrase “well she asked for it”? You know, when someone was talking about a guy grabbing or hitting on a woman that is clearly not interested in them. Then, when she turns around and complains, someone says “oh well, she was dressed a certain way. She clearly was asking for it.”
Well. . .
That’s not how it works.
So, for those who are confused, I have a little public service announcement for you:
Just because a woman dresses a certain way — whether it’s a revealing skirt or outfit — does not mean it’s an automatic yes. It does not mean that she wants to sleep with you, and that you shouldn’t ask permission before you put your hands on her.
In fact, if she looks uninterested and you continue to do so, then you not only look like a terrible person, but you also are assaulting her. And, being really creepy.
There is a sense of entitlement that pulses through those out there — and believe me, there are quite a few guys out there that think that way — that a guy can have any girl that they please. Some even go as far as proclaiming that they can have any girl that they want. Those are the guys that are responsible for the catcalling, who live on Tinder looking for the one thing, and the guys who honestly don’t care about much else other than to get what they want and need. Those men expect women to just deliver that just because they want it.
And, that is completely wrong — and you’re forcing someone into something they don’t want to do.
For those who think that way, let me introduce you to my friend. His name is respect. Respect a woman and her rejection if she does reject you. Respect her decision. Respect her body. Respect her.
I think there should be a golden rule when it comes to dating. That rule should be this: think about your sister/daughters. How would you want them to be treated by a guy? Would you want someone to talk to them in the same way you are talking to that girl in the short skirt?
If not, then here’s a word of advice — don’t do it. That woman that you’re hitting on is someone’s daughter. She is someone’s sister. She is someone’s friend. But most importantly, she is human, and she deserves the same amount of respect that you think you do as well.
The take home message here — treat a woman with respect and don’t be rude. End of story.