Something We All Need To Work On In 2019

There is something that each and every one of us deserve in our daily lives and interactions. It is something that is so simple and so easy that everyone can do. And, that is to simply work on our communication with each other, and to make sure that we are kinder to one another.

Honestly, we never know what a person is going through. Let me ask you this. How many times have we assumed that someone who is a bit rude or mean as being an unpleasant person? I have done this myself so many times.

What we don’t know is that underneath they are struggling with something. That can be that they are dealing with a breakup or a death of a loved one. Or, that they have received some terrible news. Or, they could be struggling to deal with putting a meal on the table.

Those are the people who need kindness the most.

Everyone deals with something — am I right? Therefore, since we all do, why is it so difficult for us to try to be more compassionate?

I have no idea. However, I think that we should at least aspire to do so.

Therefore, I propose something. I am asking everyone out there reading this to work on trying to be kinder to each other. There are so many ways one can do this. And, they are not that hard. It’s about smiling and saying ‘good morning’ to someone. Or, whenever we want someone to do something for us, being polite about it instead of demanding. Finally, you can also hold the door out for strangers as well. Basically, we can try to work on thinking of the impact of our actions and how they effect others.

A little kindness can truly go a long way. And, it can be something small, but it may have the impact to make someone’s day. Furthermore, maintaining that positive deposition can help you when times are rough for you.

With that being said, let 2019 be the year for a kinder you. I think we can do it.

Craft Tutorial: Knit Infinity Scarf

I picked up a pair of knitting needles for the first time the past November. Since then, I’ve made a few scarves for friends and family. However, after the third one, I began to get a little tired of making your standard scarf with a ton of rows and that’s about it.

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With that being said, I started to make these infinity scarves. And, guess what? They are so easy! Which is great, because I’m pretty much a beginner.

So, with that being said, here’s how you make it:

What You Need: 

  • 1-2 (depending on the weight/length you want them) skeins of bulky weight yarn.
  • Knitting needles of your choice (For this, I used US Size 9 and 12).
  • Tapestry needle.

What You Do:  

  1. Cast on 21 stitches.
  2. Use garter stitch (for those who don’t know, this is a fancy term to just knitting every row) to make this scarf as long as desired.
  3. Once it’s made to the desired length, cast off and weave ends in.
  4. Sew ends together. Voila! You’re done.

There Is A Time For Everything

My favorite bible verse is Ecclesiastes 3:1 – 8. For those of you who are not familiar with the Bible, please see below for the verse:

To every thing there is a season,
and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate;
A time of war, and a time of peace.

What I like about this verse is that it serves as a reminder that everything happens for a reason. I believe that there is truly a time for everything. Sometimes, we can be impatient for something to happen. That can be a boyfriend. That can be that job that we have always dreamed of, but yet instead of doing it, you are waiting tables or whatever. That funny little thing called fate has a plan for us — even though sometimes we don’t actually understand what that plan may be.

With that being said, I also believe that there is a funny thing about listening to your gut — even when you are unsure of yourself. Our gut knows us better than we do, and personally, I think that we don’t listen to it enough. Instead, that voice is often drowned by what others think is best for us. Which is nice to have people to care enough to voice their opinion, but at the end of the day, no one knows what is best for us, than ourselves.

Sometimes, without any particular reason why, we just know what is best for us. I think that it comes from knowing the timing and listening to our gut. This comes from knowing when it is time to pursue a new opportunity. This comes from knowing when a relationship is not right for you. This comes from knowing that while things may not be how we want them to be right this second, we will get to that point.

So, to those who are struggling, know this: with a little hard work and pixie dust, everything will work out in the end. The timing may not be what you want it to be, however, if you listen to that thing called your gut, you will be just fine.

Craft Tutorial: Toggle Bracelet

Lately, one of my favorite pieces to make is a toggle bracelet. What I like about them is that they are so simple, yet they can turn into the most beautiful pieces. And, like many of the crafts that I show you how to make, there are so many ways to make it. So, if you’re looking for a fun craft to keep you occupied during the winter season, here’s how to make it.

What You Need: 

  • Beads of your choice
  • String — my personal favorite is Tiger Tail.
  • Toggle Clasp of your choice
  • Crimp Beads
  • Crimp tool

What You Need To Do: 

  1. Measure the string to the length that you would like. Give yourself about an extra two inches, and cut.
  2. Grab a crimp bead and a crimp tool. String the crimp bead through the string, then string the loop of the circular part of the toggle bracelet and then loop it through the crimp bead.
  3. Crimp it until flat.
  4. Begin stringing beads in desired pattern.
  5. Once the bracelet is to the desired length, string another crimp bead on. Do the same with step two with the other end of the clasp.
  6. Cut longer ends. Now you’re done!

15 Books That I Would Like To Read In 2019

2019 is already in full swing, and I’ve already completed five books of my Goodreads challenge. However, this year I really want to try to lower the books on my to-read shelf. Therefore, I hope that this year is the year that I read the following books. Some of these books are books that have been sitting in my house for a while, and I’m trying to get rid of. Others are books that I’ve been wanting to read for a while. And, of course, you have the books that are a part of series that I’ve wanted to finish forever.

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  1. Becoming by Michelle Obama
  2. The Game of Thrones Series by George R. R. Martin
  3. The Last Star by Rick Yancey
  4. Dumplin’ by Julie Murphy
  5. The Wife Between Us by Geer Hendricks and Sarah Pekkanen
  6. Orange Is The New Black by Piper Kernman
  7. Me, Earl and the Dying Girl by Jesse Andrews
  8. Delirium by Lauren Oliver
  9. Anna and the French Kiss by Stephanie Perkins
  10. Who Do You Love by Jennifer Weiner
  11. Luckiest Girl Alive by Jessica Knoll
  12. The Lies We Told by Camilla Way
  13. China Rich Girlfriend and Rich People Problems by Kevin Kwan
  14. Starry Eyes by Jenn Bennett
  15. Capital Gaines by Chip Gaines

Book of Essie by Meghan MacLean Weir Review

I wanted to read the novel Book of Essie by Meghan MacLean Weir for a while now. Recently, I finally was able to pick that book up, and absolutely loved it.

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Synopsis:

The novel is about Esther Anne “Essie” Hicks, who spent her entire life in front of the camera from her family’s reality show, Six for Hicks. The family is a combination of the Duggars and the Kardashians – if you can picture such a thing. Essie’s father is a pastor, while her mother is a “mom”-ager.

The novel begins when seventeen-year-old Essie finds out that she is pregnant, and her mother, Celia tries to figure out what is the best course of action. Should they pretend that it’s Celia’s? Should she go away for nine months? Or, should they marry her off to an unsuspecting boy?

Soon enough, Essie is engaged to be married to Roarke – someone in her class who is hiding a big secret of his own. However, with the help of journalist Liberty Banks, Essie soon tries to take down her family and their big web of cover-ups.

Review:

Before I review this book, I will warn that there are several trigger warnings in this novel for those who have been raped or suffered sexual abuse.

I really liked the novel. I have seen a lot of mixed reviews online and on the bookstagram accounts that I have been following, and many have said that the book was too slow. That was not the case for me. The book held my interest until the end.

One of the biggest mysteries for me while reading this was wondering who the father of Essie’s baby was. Seeing how her family was, I just thought that it was someone that they didn’t approve of her being with for whatever reason. I’m not going to spoil it for anyone, but I was wrong. Really wrong.

The story was told in three points of view – Essie’s, Roarke’s, and Liberty’s. These three people definitely didn’t cross paths together much beforehand. At first, you wonder why they even exist. Over time, you suddenly realize the importance of the three points of view. Furthermore, I thought the insight of Liberty – someone who is a survivor of a cult – truly added to the story.

However, I thought this story was really believable. It was interesting to see how much fame could truly change a family – even one as religious as the Hicks. Throughout the novel, you see several different ideals of conservative Christianity, including: homophobia, abstinence, and the idea that boys will be boys and women have to maintain their virtue.

When someone is as famous and as wealthy as the Hicks family is, the line between right and wrong is erased and replaced by the desire of maintaining appearances. I believe that clouded their judgement, and created half of the problem that Essie experienced.

Overall, I did enjoy this novel, and thought that it was extremely thought-provoking. Therefore, if you’re debating about reading this novel, I say go ahead and do it. Trust me, it is definitely worth it.

*See disclaimer here

What Does It Mean To Be In A Healthy Relationship?

I’ve been thinking a lot about the relationship that we share with significant others and how much we have invested in them. You know, how much time we spend with them, and what makes a relationship healthy.

I am no expert here, but I do have some opinions about the issue. Personally, I think that the definition of a healthy relationship varies from person to person. Of course, there are a ton of factors that go into it – how much time we spend with that person, the speed of how fast it goes, how much space one needs, and so much else. Furthermore, it’s important to remember that above all, a healthy relationship contains respect and honesty.

However, the question that surfaces is how much is too much? How much time is too much spent together? When should we give our partner space?

Now, as I said earlier, it differs from person to person. However, here are some things that to me makes a healthy relationship:

  • The most important thing to me is having a life that’s outside of that person. You know, friends, family, hobbies and pets. I have had quite a few friends who have basically become invisible when they’ve gotten boyfriends. This is fine, because it’s important to spend quality time with their significant other. However, I do think it’s a problem when you leave your friends hanging – or even cancel – just because you want to make sure that you see your bae.
  • Furthermore, what I think is also important is that you have respect for yourself. This means that if your boyfriend does something that bothers you, you let him know. I have also seen friends who are rightfully upset with their boyfriends, however when they actually talk things over, everything is fine in a few minutes. And, for some fights, that’s perfectly fine. However, I feel like when that happens, some feelings are being overlooked. That’s not okay. In my opinion, it’s important to recognize every feeling and communicate that with your partner. Otherwise, nothing changes and frustration builds.

Like I said earlier, I am not a counselor nor am I an expert. However, at the end of the day, I believe that I can still share my opinions.

This is why I am writing this blog post.