Saying Hello to 2018

Today is the last day of 2017. Tonight, we will throw glitter into the air and celebrate a new beginning, a new book that will have 365 pages. We will kiss loved ones at midnight, drink champagne, and be merry. Out with 2017, in with 2018. 

Across the world, many are pledging to do something to improve their lives in 2018. Typically, this means that you’re going to read more books, lose a few pounds, or to drink more water. And, those are pretty good resolutions. If you’re one of those people that are planning to do that, I wish you nothing but the best.

As I look back in 2017, I realize a lot has happened. I walked away from my first job that wasn’t working out. I then got the opportunity to work for a radio station and meet so many people. This lead to so many opportunities — including meeting Jack Antonoff from Bleachers. I welcomed love into my heart, said hello and goodbye to many friends, and am learning the importance of taking care of myself.

Therefore, as I head into 2018, I am making one resolution — to continue down a path to help me become the best me I can. I think that’s doable, don’t you?

There are many ways I can do this.

First, I can write more. What many people don’t realize is that writing continues to serve as a therapist’s chair as well as my meal ticket. While I don’t blog as often as I used to, I continue to pen articles for websites such as CT Boom and Americanoize. I also write privately in my journals. I’ve been keeping journals for five and a half years, and writing in them always makes me feel better about anything. Therefore, heading into 2018, I want to make journaling a habit.

Secondly, I can learn to be less hard on myself. I’ve heard somewhere that we are our worst critics, and I believe that is true. At the end of the day, you can only do your best and give 100 percent into everything that you can do. Therefore, why should we be hard on ourselves when that’s what we are giving? Honestly, I have no idea.

And finally, the best thing that I can do is to allow love in. Love is a strange emotion, guys. It brings insecurity and fear. But, it also brings a lot of joy and happiness. We often forget it — and focus on the negative. Therefore, as I head in 2018, I want to bask into love’s rays of happiness. I want to be able to say that I’ve loved — and not worried about the silly things. Easier said than done, but that’s something I want to work on.

At the end of the day, we are not complete beings. We are works in progress that continue to evolve into a stronger being. It takes time, but the process continues to be a mixture of beauty and progression. We should to appreciate the view, and slow down. We will get to that place where we want to be — eventually. 

And so, with that being said, happy new year, everyone.

Looking Past The Diamonds

If you know me well, you know that I absolutely love jewelry. I always have a ton of jewelry on, and I’m always buying something new to add to my collection. With that being said, I follow a lot of jewelry accounts on Twitter, because I’m going to be honest — I just really like shiny things.

A few days ago, I was scrolling through Twitter and saw the picture below. Basically, it was someone who posted a picture of a huge engagement ring, and the caption was ‘I can’t wait for this’ with the heart emoji.

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I don’t know why, but that made me angry.

To be honest, I think that if someone is looking for her boyfriend to give her something — whether it’s a huge rock or even a huge thing of flowers — then they are dating or even marrying for the wrong reasons. When you’re dating someone, you’re dating because they love you. You are dating them because they are making you laugh. You are not dating someone because they can provide you with a huge diamond ring. You are not dating someone because they can buy you things.

If you are, then you are dating with the wrong intentions and the wrong reasons. You are looking for a bank account — not a boyfriend. If that’s what you’re looking for, then hey, more power to you. 

But, for me, if it were the right person, then the ring that they gave me really wouldn’t have mattered (just as long as I can wear it — I am actually allergic to nickel!). It’s sad that I feel like we look past that into what someone can give us to wear. And, while rings are pretty, nothing is quite as sparkly as one’s smile from being happy.

At the end of the day, though, love has no cost. Love shouldn’t be based on a dollar sign, or how much someone has in the bank. It should be based on their personality and the way that you make you feel. It bothers me to no end that there are still women out there that see it, because they are buying into the consumerism that has plagued the millennial culture.

After all, we’ve seen so many millennials post pictures and tweets about their ‘goals.’ I’ve noticed many of them are about having a significant other that just brings them things.

Now before you describe me as pessimistic, please hear me out. I am all about giving your significant other things — especially if you’re coming from a place where you’re just trying to make them smile. However, it shouldn’t be a thing where we’ve come to expect it from them — or that we have to have a certain thing that’s expensive.

Are we just a material world now?