Give Yourself A Break: The Importance Of Self Care

Hi there, readers. If you haven’t noticed, I haven’t been really writing here lately. Why? Well, it’s been a busy month, and suffice to say, whenever I did have the time to write a post, I would often choose watching tv.


It’s safe to say I needed a break. I need time to self care and recharge my batteries. This often cut into my blogging time. I write a lot about the importance of mental health and giving yourself a break, therefore, I think that’s important that I execute that. 

In my humble opinion we as a society don’t really do well with breaks. I mean, think about it for a second. We are so busy throughout the day and balance so much. For some of us, this means going to school and juggling a few jobs. For others, it means juggling around chores, a couple of jobs, and other various things. And, more and more of us are eating our lunches while we are doing work. 

And, depending on your to-do lists, it can be easily to overload it for whatever reason. I don’t know about you, but that happens to me a lot. There are a lot of reasons why this happens — we want to be able to help out the people that we care about, we want to work extra hours and make extra money, or for whatever reason, we feel guilty when we remain idle. Whatever the case may be, it’s important to remember that despite what we feel like we should do, we should focus more on what’s right for us.

So, with that being said, if we are feeling overwhelmed, instead of continuing to take on more, let’s take a step back. Sure, it might not be well received, but at the end of the day, our sanity and stress levels will thank us. That is something that I continue to struggle with, but am hopefully getting better at it.

For me, whenever I put self care and giving myself a break first, I often feel terrible about it. For example, if someone asks me to do something, I often put my needs to the side. Sometimes, this can cause me to lose sight of what’s important — my physical and/or my mental health. And while I feel good about being there for that person or helping out, I can not help but notice that I begin to feel drained myself.

At the end of every day, it’s important to remember one thing: we need to do what’s best for us. No one can tell us how to feel or what is best for us. And, if they try to, then it’s simply white noise.

My take home message here? You can’t be everyone and you can’t be everywhere. Therefore, it’s healthy and crucial that you be the best you that you can be. And, that means learning to take care of you.

Those are cliche and you probably heard it before, but hey, it’s true.

Woman's Issues

. . . Are You Asking For It?

Have you ever heard of the phrase “well she asked for it”? You know, when someone was talking about a guy grabbing or hitting on a woman that is clearly not interested in them. Then, when she turns around and complains, someone says “oh well, she was dressed a certain way. She clearly was asking for it.”

Well. . .

That’s not how it works.

So, for those who are confused, I have a little public service announcement for you:

Just because a woman dresses a certain way — whether it’s a revealing skirt or outfit — does not mean it’s an automatic yes. It does not mean that she wants to sleep with you, and that you shouldn’t ask permission before you put your hands on her.

In fact, if she looks uninterested and you continue to do so, then you not only look like a terrible person, but you also are assaulting her. And, being really creepy.

There is a sense of entitlement that pulses through those out there — and believe me, there are quite a few guys out there that think that way — that a guy can have any girl that they please. Some even go as far as proclaiming that they can have any girl that they want. Those are the guys that are responsible for the catcalling, who live on Tinder looking for the one thing, and the guys who honestly don’t care about much else other than to get what they want and need. Those men expect women to just deliver that just because they want it.

And, that is completely wrong — and you’re forcing someone into something they don’t want to do.

For those who think that way, let me introduce you to my friend. His name is respect. Respect a woman and her rejection if she does reject you. Respect her decision. Respect her body. Respect her.

I think there should be a golden rule when it comes to dating. That rule should be this: think about your sister/daughters. How would you want them to be treated by a guy? Would you want someone to talk to them in the same way you are talking to that girl in the short skirt?

If not, then here’s a word of advice — don’t do it. That woman that you’re hitting on is someone’s daughter. She is someone’s sister. She is someone’s friend. But most importantly, she is human, and she deserves the same amount of respect that you think you do as well.

The take home message here — treat a woman with respect and don’t be rude. End of story.