In life, there are some people who just seem to be negative, and weigh you down instead of lifting you up. Those are the people who often spend their time looking at the glass being half full instead of empty, using the social media as a blank canvas for their complaints, and insert negativity into the world rather than positivity.
I’ve had friends who are like that. Every time that I would go out with them, I would feel ten pounds heavier after. These are the friends who are the drama queens, the ones who get more out of life by trashing others behind their backs. When I was in upper high school and lower college, I would find it amusing. Then, as I began to fall into the rabbit role of the effects of anxiety, I began to see them clearly. Instead of finding my outings with those friends to be amusing, I began to dread them in the way you would a dentist appointment. I then realized that it was because of how I left every encounter, every coffee date, and every shopping trip. Therefore, I realized it was time to leave those friends behind.
Someone, maybe my therapist or Buddha I can’t remember, once said positivity attracts positivity. I believe that is true. By cutting the negative people out of my life, I am realizing that I am left with one thing – positive vibes.
By cutting the negative people out of my life, I soon evolved into an entirely different person. I became happier, and looked to enjoy the positive things in my life. You see, by hanging out with people who are negative, you become negative. By surrounding yourself with positivity, you become positive. It’s not rocket science. It’s just simple.
However, how can we become more positive beings? Leaving the friends who are negative influences is only one way. But, there is so much more you can do. You can look at the bright side of things, even when there is pouring rain outside and everything is wrong. You can learn to treat yourself well, by spending time alone in libraries and cafes. You can make time to do things that you love, such as reading books or magazines in subjects that interest you, doing crafts, and doing the things that make you smile. That way, you too can become more positive. It’s that easy.
And the more that you fall in love with your life, the less negative you’ll become, which will spread to those who you are surround yourself with.
So, yes Mondays pretty much suck. However, they don’t have to be. Start by looking at the positive in every situation. I can guarantee that you’ll find happiness in it.