For as long as I can remember, I knew I wanted to be a journalist and a writer. To reach that goal, I held roles at publications, nonprofits, and websites. Add in classes, a job to pay the bills, and it’s safe to say that I was a pretty busy lady.
Because of that, maintaining a social life and a relationship can be a bit exhausting, and was a priority that often fell to the bottom of the list. Before I continue, I would like to say that in some of my relationships, I received endless support in what I wanted to do with my career. Other times, usually in guys I met online or have dated once or twice, they would simply complain I never made enough time to hang out with them or didn’t answer their text timely enough.
Uhm, excuse me?
Therefore, I decided to write this list as a reminder of guys who will either date me, or another career oriented girl.
- Sometimes, I am just too tired for date night. Friday nights are usually date nights. However, after a long week at the office, the only thing that I want to do is go home and watch 90’s sitcoms on Netflix. It’s not because I don’t want to hang out, it’s just I’m exhausted. Therefore, please don’t take offense when I say that I am too exhausted to go out on the town with you.
- I won’t respond to messages right away. Whether it’s because I have a day full of meetings, trying to get things done, or just engrossed in my work, I’m not paying attention to my phone 24/7. I get it that it can be frustrating when you’re trying to make plans with me and I’m not answering. However, please understand that I’m not ignoring you – I just have to get my work done. And, I will answer. Eventually. Just be patient.
- I might have to work late – causing me to have to cancel plans last minute. Sometimes, I’m on deadline so I’ll need to stay at the office much later to get things done. As a result, I may have to cancel or reschedule or movie date. Try to understand that I don’t want to cancel, but I genuinely need to be at work.
- You’ll be asked to read some of my stories – and give your honest opinion. This one applies to my fellow journalists out there. Whenever I write a piece for my blog, or an article, chances are I’m going to ask you to read it. Just do it, and tell me what you think.
- Sometimes, I’m going to need pep talks. Work has good days and bad ones. On the bad ones, be that extra shoulder of support and be encouraging. It will go a long way.
- I’m extremely passionate about my career and will talk about it to anyone who will listen. While the work sometimes is stressful, I wouldn’t trade it in for anything. Therefore, my passion for writing is greater than anything else I have in my life. On dates it’s something that I talk about constantly – and that’s okay. Just listen attentively, and eventually, I’ll shut up.